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Why to Say, "F it" and Do You Boo Boo

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So, why is it important to throw caution to the wind and

do what's best for you? 

That's selfish, right? 

We were taught to "be kind and put others first'" Not to speak for everyone, but that simply doesn't work in today's day and age.

We need to take responsibility for our own lives 

and happiness. Its called healthy boundaries with yourself. Here are 5 reasons why you should say "F it" and you do you Boo Boo.

Stop making yourself unhappy trying to please everyone.

You have to make the choice that makes YOU happy. You’re not getting an award for staying late so your coworker doesn’t have to. 

Don't go broke giving everyone bomb Christmas presents
Being in the black is more important than Tia Marta’s picky expectations. Say no to the stupid party you don’t want to go to. Your time is valuable. And the only person who can choose what to do with it is you. 

Your happiness is important.

No one will take care of you but you.

Relying on someone else to take care of you is a mistake.

Healthy relationships enrich each other, not feed or drain one another. No one will put you first in everything because they're busy taking care of themselves. So that has now become your job! 

Take the next best step for you.

Do NOT rely on anyone for money, emotional fulfilment, peace or happiness. Just like nobody else can make your doctors appointments even without consent, some things you just need to pick up and take responsibility for, even if you’d wish it came from outside. Take care of number one. Put yourself first because no one else will.

Life was meant to live.

If humans were created to wake, work, eat, sleep and die that would be tragic. 

Fortunately, we’ve been gifted the abilities to see vibrant colors, taste amazing food, laugh, love, cry, be excited, explore and run. 

Grab life by the horns, baby! 

Go to that concert. Visit your Grandma. Let the kids make a crazy mess when you’re cooking. Go on that vacation. There’s only one opportunity to live life. A wise man named Eminem once said, “You only get one shot do not miss your chance, do not miss your chance to blow, this opportunity comes once in a lifetime...”

Your future is your responsibility.

Sometimes self care means discipline. Sometime you gotta

suck it up and do the crap you don’t want to do. That means saying no to the extra cheese pizza, wake up early to run, do the stupid laundry, send that cold email to the next big client. 

What’s best isn’t always easy or fun. 

Some things are necessary. Like saving for retirement, or paying your bills on time. They say the best treatment is prevention. So why not head off your potential problems with a pass. Make HEALTHY choices. Make the right choice for you. Your future is in no one’s hands but your own.

Take Risks.

Wanna know the best way to find out if you like something? You do it. 

Push past fear and try new things. 

Putting yourself out there certainly is scary. Its vulnerable and you may feel naked and so what? There's no way around that. Be confident and jump on your next risk. You’ll never succeed if you don’t try. Sometimes you’ll fail. 

“Failure is the best teacher."-Yoda

When you do fail (because we all do and will again), learn from it, get up and take another risk after you fail. 

The more chances you take, the more chances have to SUCCEED. 

Put yourself out there- whatever that looks like for you. Go for that hot date, ask for a promotion, quote your client what you deserve. Investing takes risk. To get a return you have to make an investment. 

Invest in yourself and take a risk!

Practice Self Compassion.

No one else in this whole wide world will know how you feel and understand you completely, no matter how empathetic. 

You are the only one with your unique experiences and perspective. 

No one else will understand the history and dynamic between you and your mom, your longstanding unfortunate lactose intolerance to watch out for, or when something hurts bad enough to go to the Emergency Room. So understand that the best person with the most insight into your life is Y-O-U. And sometimes we make mistakes. 

You will f up situations. That’s ok. 

It’s inevitable and as previously discussed, the first step to success. After a mistake, take a deep breath, commend yourself for doing your best and shake it off and move on. You are only defined by what you choose to define yourself by.

I wrote this to empower you, You sexy bad beast! Own it, choose your own happiness, take care of yourself, live life, take risks and have some dang self compassion, people. You are awesome. You are worth it. Say "F it" and you do you, Boo Boo!

What is ONE THING you can do TODAY just for YOU? Let me know in the comments!